WHAT ACCIDENTALLY MANIFESTING A CAT TAUGHT ME ABOUT MANIFESTING LOVE.
My friend Neely is an animal magnet. Like Disney-princess-level magnet. We once got dinner in a barren, uninhabited, industrial part of Nashville (fun!) and a bunny was waiting by her car when we left.
When was the last time you’ve seen a bunny, anywhere? I’m convinced Neely summoned it…as she does.
My point is, I hate cats.
What?
Let me explain.
I thought I hated cats. Until Neely did her summoning thing and made me like one. JUST ONE. (Ok maybe it’s more than like. I recently said I love my cat so much I want to eat him. Bc then we would be closer).
WHERE THE HELL IS THIS GOING JESSICA AND WHAT DOES IT HAVE TO DO WITH MY LOVE LIFE?
Hold your horses! Or, in this case, your cats.
Neely finding my literal* alley cat gave me an opportunity to question my rigid thinking patterns and allowed me to fully let a male into my heart. (Granted this male is 15 pounds and has 4 legs).
*She found him in an actual alley I was not keen on following her down. Not bc it wasn't safe, but bc a cat was at the end of it.
When Neely found (magnetized) him and asked for my help in rescuing him, my immediate thoughts were DEFENSIVE & FEARFUL.
Thoughts like: Ew. He’s dirty. Cat’s are gross. Is he sick? I’m scared of him. He’s going to bite me. This is NOT IN THE PLAN.
Because I’m a life coach and really into questioning my thoughts and paying attention to when the Universe might be up to something…I got curious about my reaction.
I softened my defenses, dropped into the present moment, and asked myself what was TRUE:
I observed: He is scared. He looks healthy but skinny. He is hungry. Neely knows what she is doing (please see earlier reference to Disney princess). I could use some company. Maybe the Universe wants to bring us together.
Without that PAUSE to interrupt my defensive thinking and soften into what is TRUE, I would have told her NO (out of fear and convenience) and I would have robbed myself of cat naps (see below) & sentenced myself to a life full of just regular naps.
This is why I’m so hell-bent on teaching clients to OBSERVE & QUESTION their defensive thoughts when it comes to their love lives.
Our defensive & fearful thoughts (ones that are NOT based in reality) can keep love and relationships at bay. If we LIVE from them, years can go by without letting anyone in. 2-legged OR 4.
We don’t judge the thoughts – they developed to protect you when you needed them.
But we don’t let them decide.
We drop into the present. We drop into what is TRUE. From there, we decide how to move forward and who to move forward with.
We allow ourselves to be available for the good things the Universe wants to bring into our lives.
PRACTICE:
1). Make a list of your defensive or fearful thoughts when it comes to love.
Examples: All the good ones are taken. If someone sees the “real” me, they will leave. I’m not (blank) enough. I can’t trust men/women.
2). For each thought, find its opposite. List 3 examples of how the opposite could be true.
Example: If someone sees the “real” me, they will stay. 1) My good friends see the real me and they stick around. 2) The real me is more interesting than the mask I wear. 3) I love my friends/partner even more when I see the “real” them.
3) When in doubt, observe your thoughts. Thank your defensive thoughts for trying to keep you safe. LIVE from your TRUTH. (GET A CAT).
Love,
Jessica
P.S. His name is Oliver. Which is also the name of Neely's cat. Which I conveniently forgot. For legal purposes, he is Oliver 2
