the unbecoming.
For the women who are ready to figure out the next chapter that’s calling and trust themselves enough to go after it.
You’ve done the therapy. Worn out your copy of “What Color is Your Parachute?” Manifested your little booty off. Maybe consulted an Etsy witch? Taken every career quiz you’ve come across. But you still feel like you h
ave no idea what your purpose is.
The Unbecoming is a 3-month 1:1 coaching experience for women who feel stuck in the wrong career but don’t know what their true calling is yet…you just know you’re meant for more than this.
Together, we help you figure out what you really want, learn to trust yourself, and map out a plan for your next chapter that feels like it’s actually right for you.
Your purpose isn’t lost
I work with women who know their soul came here for more than just a “job.” They crave more freedom, purpose, meaning, creativity, and impact. They don’t just want a career, they want a calling - something that feels so true to who they really are.
But right now it feels like maybe that’s possible for other people but not for them. Or they feel overwhelmed with ideas and don’t know which idea is the “right” one. They’re worried they can’t replace their steady paycheck. Or they’re waiting for the answer to just come to them, before they take any steps to figure it out.
A deeper part of you KNOWS you are meant for something more - a path that excites you, and makes you come alive, and feels like the thing you are here to do.
You’ve just been looking for it in the wrong places.
You feel it at your desk. On Sunday nights. When you scroll past women living lives that feel like they actually belong to them and your chest tightens. You cannot keep delaying the life you’re meant to live.
It might look like:
You feel like your job is sucking the life out of you. You have nothing left by the end of the day and you worry you’re wasting your life.
You feel Soul-sick. There’s a mounting grief that you might not ever do what you came here to do.
You might be getting physically sick. Your body is starting to keep the score. The stress of forcing yourself into a life that doesn’t fit is leading to actual illness, exhaustion, or physical pain.
You’re so tired of thinking “this is it!” only to change your mind the next week, but you feel too uncertain to fully commit to any one thing.
This current chapter feels so OVER - like you cannot breathe any more life into it - but you don’t know what comes next.
You can’t be yourself at work. You feel like you have to shrink who you are or perform to do your job well.
You don’t know how to live the life you want and have financial security at the same time.
You’re stuck in analysis paralysis and can’t get out of your head long enough to hear the whispers coming from your intuition.
What you’ve tried isn't working. Books, podcasts, psychics, job applications, morning pages, wearing out your tarot cards, Chatgpt rabbit holes…but you still aren’t sure what’s right for you or you don’t trust the messages you’re getting.
WElcome to the unbecoming.
The Unbecoming is a private 3-month mentorship for women who know they're meant for more but don't know what that "more" is yet.
Together, we'll reconnect with who you really are, rebuild your self-trust, and create a plan for a life and career that feels deeply aligned with who you are.
You aren't bad at making decisions. You haven't lost your purpose. And you aren't incapable of knowing or having what you want.
You've just spent so long trying to do the “right” thing. To be responsible. Successful. To do what’s expected of you. Downplay your gifts. Be “good.” You've gotten so good at becoming who everyone else needed you to be that you slowly lost touch with who you are. And when you lose touch with yourself, it's almost impossible to know what you truly want.
Over the next three months, we’ll GET CLEAR on what you want, UNTANGLE what's been keeping you stuck, and REBUILD your ability to trust yourself.
Instead of wondering, "What is my thing…what comes next?" you'll know what's right for you - and have the confidence to build it.
Inside The Unbecoming, we move through three core phases…
What’s inside
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PHASE I — Life Mapping
Your life has been leaving clues about who you are, what matters to you, and what brings you alive. We start by mapping them.
Together, we look across your life—your desires, patterns, gifts, experiences, curiosities, and the parts of yourself you may have learned to dismiss—to separate what's actually true for you from what you've been taught you should want.
Together we'll uncover:
✔ Your True North — what actually matters to you, beyond inherited values, expectations, and what looks good on paper.
✔ Your Adaptive Self vs. Alive Self — who you've learned to be to succeed, belong, and stay safe vs. who you are when you feel most alive and like yourself.
✔ Your Golden Shadow — the gifts, qualities, and greatness you've learned to hide, minimize, or dismiss.
✔ Your Life Clues — the childhood interests, recurring patterns, pivotal experiences, obsessions, and moments of aliveness that reveal what keeps calling you back.
✔ Your Emerging Paths — the ideas, curiosities, and possibilities that are asking to be explored.
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PHASE II — Inner compass
Knowing what could bring you alive is one thing. Trusting yourself enough to choose one and move toward it is another.
This is where we work through the fear, old stories, and protective patterns that keep you overthinking, second-guessing, and waiting for certainty.
You'll learn to hear your own voice more clearly and trust your ability to make the right choices for yourself.
Together we'll work through:
✔ Fear vs. Intuition — learning to tell the difference between “this isn't for me” and “this scares me because it matters.”
✔ Your Inner Parts — understanding the inner critic, achiever, inner child, protector, and other parts that can take over when you're facing uncertainty or change.
✔ The Stories Keeping You Stuck — uncovering and transforming beliefs about what's possible, practical, safe, responsible, or “too late” for you.
✔ Visibility & Judgment — working through the fear of being seen trying, changing your mind, or choosing a path other people don't understand.
✔ Your Body Compass — somatic tools that get you out of endless analysis and help you recognize what feels alive, expansive, draining, or true.
✔ Self-Trust Without Certainty — building the inner safety to make a choice before you know exactly how it will turn out—and trusting yourself to course-correct as you learn.
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PHASE III — STEPPING INTO YOUR NEXT CHAPTER
In this phase, we take the possibilities that have emerged and bring them into the real world—through small experiments and aligned action that gives you real information about what you want more of.
You don't have to burn your life down or commit to a five-year plan. We'll identify the next steps that feel alive enough to explore, while building your capacity to move before you have all the answers.
Because often you don't think your way into clarity. You live your way into it.
Together we'll:
✔ Identify Your Emerging Paths — narrow the possibilities that feel most alive, meaningful, or worth exploring right now.
✔ Create Real-World Experiments — find low-risk, tangible ways to test your ideas instead of trying to predict from the sidelines whether they'll be right for you.
✔ Make the Next Decision — focus on the choice that's actually in front of you instead of needing to know how the entire story ends.
✔ Work Through What Comes Up — navigate the fear, self-doubt, imposter syndrome, judgment, uncertainty, and resistance that naturally surface when you start doing something different.
✔ Build Confidence Through Action — stop waiting until you feel confident enough to move and let confidence grow from seeing yourself try, learn, and follow through.
✔ Become the Woman Who Moves — embody a new way of living where you follow what feels true, respond to what life shows you, and trust yourself to navigate what comes next.
This might look like:
Exploring a new career or role
Testing a business or side-project idea
Putting your art or creativity into the world
Taking a class or learning a new craft
Reviving a dream you abandoned years ago
Becoming more visible
Finding new ways to serve or create impact
What’s included
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Weekly 1:1 Sessions
Weekly, personalized coaching that meets you exactly where you are—combining deep exploration with practical guidance so you leave each session with greater clarity, self-trust, and momentum
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Custom Integration Work
Personalized practices, journal prompts, and integration exercises designed to deepen your breakthroughs and help you create lasting change between sessions
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Pillar-by-pillar deep dive work
Move through a clear, transformational framework that guides you from conditioned survival to authentic self-expression and purpose.
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Custom roadmap built around your story
Your path is unlike anyone else's. Together we'll follow the threads of your unique life, gifts, and challenges to create your next chapter
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Somatic + mindset + emotional healing tools
Blend body-based practices, nervous system work, belief transformation, and emotional processing so change becomes embodied—not just understood
you’ll leave with:
⟡ A clear understanding of what your calling is and why it feels so meaningful to you
⟡ A vision for your next chapter that genuinely excites you
⟡ A practical plan for bringing that vision to life
⟡ The ability to tell the difference between fear and intuition
⟡ The ability to make decisions without constantly seeking permission or second-guessing yourself
⟡ Trust in your own intuition, even when the path ahead feels uncertain
⟡ A deeper trust in yourself than you've ever had before
⟡ Tools you'll continue using long after our work together ends
about me
Hi!In 2019, I quit practicing law because I could no longer ignore a truth I'd been avoiding for years. "Good girl" conditioning and a deep disconnect from who I truly am…was ruining my life.
I spent years afraid to be myself. At the root of that fear was a deep, old belief that something was fundamentally wrong with me. So I tried to be "good," to do the "right" thing, to become who I thought everyone else needed me to be. Not surprisingly, I lost myself — and my path — in the process.
I became a lawyer because it felt respectable. Safe. Close enough to what I really wanted, without asking me to risk too much. Eventually, I gave up hope of ever finding my true calling and put all my happiness eggs in the relationship basket instead.
Five years into my legal career, I hit rock bottom. My "this will save me" relationship ended abruptly, and something finally cracked open inside me. At the time, it felt like the worst heartbreak of my life. Looking back, I believe that cracking is what finally let the light in.
As I began healing my relationship with myself, I realized I was asking the wrong question. "What should I do with my life?" turned into... "Who would I be without all this conditioning?"
That became my own Unbecoming. I learned to listen to my intuition. To make authentic choices, even when they disappointed people. To trust myself again. I rediscovered what actually made me happy — not what I'd been taught should make me happy.
Today, it's my privilege to guide women through that same journey. Together, we peel back the layers of conditioning that have hidden your light, made you smaller, filled you with self-doubt, and disconnected you from the life that was always waiting for you.
We are all capable of waking up, of healing, of creating a life that actually belongs to us. It takes courage. But you'll never regret putting your life back into your own hands.
client love
“Jessica was remarkable in many ways. She's the most relevant and growth-oriented coach I have experienced to date.
Our conversations left me with clarity and ambition to pursue my true calling.”
-R.P. (New York)
“It's difficult to put into words the impact that Jessica has had on my life, as it's been profound.
As I entered 2024, dejected and weary from years of painful career and personal strife, I vowed to myself that I would approach "getting back on my feet" differently.
I would not jump on the LinkedIn-searching/resume-rewriting/knee-jerk job application roller coaster I was well-versed and road-weary from riding the past years, as it hadn't produced the results that I wanted in my life.
I wanted out of survival mode and into thriving mode, and I knew I needed a guide for this—and, that's exactly what Jessica did for me.
Her work reawakened my drive, reminding me of my long-ignored talents and my signature zest for life that I'd lost along the way.
Jessica helps you excavate those places in your heart that are oftentimes covered in shame, mental blocks, societal norms, or just lack of use.
She's wise and tender and attuned to exactly where you are in your life and what you need to move forward.
I walked away from my experience with Jessica with tangible results including published writing, media opportunities, improved finances, and, most importantly, a newfound confidence for my path.
If you are looking to find your purpose and awaken your soul again, Jessica is the most perfect guide for you.
-B.G. (Nashville)
“This year, I’ve learned that mental health is the new wealth and I’ve learned so much from Jessica.
She helped me make a career change, improve my relationships, know myself, and forge a new path. Check her out!”
-R.R. (Nashville)
What makes this different?
This isn’t generic career coaching. This isn’t about another career quiz or aptitude test or listing your qualifications. This is about finding your Calling. Using the gifts you were born with to make the kind of impact in the world that only you can.
We go deeper. I’ll ask the questions you’ve never thought to ask (or have been too afraid to) that unlock what you came here to do. I help you see sides of yourself that you’ve had to downplay or disconnect from. We get out of your head and into the deeper wisdom of your body and intuition.
We tailor the program to you. Unlike a course or typical group program where you fit into the program, we fit this program to YOU. Everything we do inside The Unbecoming is personal to you - your story, your gifts, your fears, your desires, and the life you want to create.
I’ve been where you are. I’m coaching from both lived experience and extensive training & education. I know what it feels like to be lost and in the wrong career. To feel so disconnected from yourself that you don’t even know how to name what you want. To let what other people think, imposter syndrome, and fear get in the way. And what it feels like to find your thing and step into the life that’s meant for you.
We turn insights into sustainable action. Once you know what you want, we create practical next steps you can begin taking now. You don’t have to quit your job or blow up your life overnight. We make the process realistic, intentional, and doable.
We help you become the woman who knows what she wants and follows through. We work on who you need to become to trust your gifts, make brave decisions, and keep moving with self-trust, even when you don’t have every step figured out yet.
Frequently Asked Questions
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That’s exactly who this work is for. Most women who come into this space feel disconnected from themselves and unsure of what they want. We uncover your purpose together through patterns, embodiment, authenticity, and aligned experimentation.
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It can be but doesn’t have to be. Your purpose may impact your career, but this work is much deeper than job strategy. This is identity work, healing work, self-trust work, and authentic life direction work.
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Therapy is healing-focused, often looking back at trauma to process and recover. This work is forward-focused — it meets you where you are, acknowledges the conditioning and pain that got you here, and actively moves you toward your authentic self and purpose. We do inner healing work, but this is purposeful transformation, not clinical treatment.
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Because most self-development work teaches you to optimize the life you have — not question whether that life was truly yours to begin with. The Unbecoming goes to the root. We're not adding better habits on top of a conditioned life. We're dismantling the conditioning itself, so everything you build from here is actually yours.
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That’s normal. Most women fear what authenticity might cost them. We move at a pace your nervous system can actually sustain while building the safety and self-trust needed for real transformation.
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That’s usually part of the problem. Most women have been trying to solve purpose entirely from the mind. This work helps you reconnect with the body, intuition, emotions, desires, and patterns that already contain the answers.
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No. I don’t believe purpose requires chaos, recklessness, or destroying your life overnight. We focus on sustainable, aligned change rooted in authenticity and nervous system safety.
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In three months, most women don't just find clarity - they find themselves. By the end of our work together, you can expect to have a real sense of what you actually want (separate from what you've been conditioned to want), a deeper trust in your own voice and intuition, and a concrete vision for your next chapter that feels genuinely yours.
YOU WERE NEVER LOST.
You haven’t missed the boat. It’s not too late and you’re not behind.
But there is a life that’s waiting for you to step into it.
A life that needs you to stop playing small, letting other people decide for you, or doing what you think you “should” do.
A life where you know what you want and are sharing your unique gifts with the world.
Like Mary Oliver reminds us…you only have this “one wild and precious life.”
Let’s find out what you’re here to do with it.