the unbecoming.
For the women who are ready to figure out the next chapter that’s calling and trust themselves enough to go after it.
You’ve done the therapy. Worn out your copy of “What Color is Your Parachute?” Manifested your little booty off. Maybe consulted an Etsy witch? Taken every career quiz you come across. But you still feel like you h
ave no idea what your purpose is.
The Unbecoming is a 3-month 1:1 coaching experience for women who feel stuck in the wrong career but don’t know what their true calling is yet…you just know you’re meant for more than this.
Together, we help you figure out what you really want, learn to trust yourself, and map out a plan for your next chapter that feels like it’s actually right for you.
Your purpose isn’t lost
I work with women who know their soul came here for more than just a “job.” They crave more freedom, purpose, meaning, creativity, and impact. They don’t just want a career, they want a calling - something that feels so true to who they really are.
But right now it feels like maybe that’s possible for other people but not for them. Or they feel overwhelmed with ideas and don’t know which idea is the “right” one. They’re worried they can’t replace their steady paycheck. Or they’re waiting for the answer to just come to them, before they take any steps to figure it out.
A deeper part of you KNOWS you are meant for something more - a path that excites you, and makes you come alive, and feels like the thing you are here to do.
You’ve just been looking for it in the wrong places.
You feel it at your desk. On Sunday nights. When you scroll past women living lives that feel like they actually belong to them and your chest tightens. You cannot keep delaying the life you’re meant to live.
It might look like:
You feel like your job is sucking the life out of you. You have nothing left by the end of the day and you worry you’re wasting your life.
You feel Soul-sick. There’s a mounting grief that you might not ever do what you came here to do.
You might be getting physically sick. Your body is starting to keep the score. The stress of forcing yourself into a life that doesn’t fit is leading to actual illness, exhaustion, or physical pain.
You’re so tired of thinking “this is it!” only to change your mind the next week, but you feel too uncertain to fully commit to any one thing.
This current chapter feels so OVER - like you cannot breathe any more life into it - but you don’t know what comes next.
You can’t be yourself at work. You feel like you have to shrink who you are or perform to do your job well.
You don’t know how to live the life you want and have financial security at the same time.
You’re stuck in analysis paralysis and can’t get out of your head long enough to hear the whispers coming from your intuition.
What you’ve tried isn't working. Books, podcasts, psychics, job applications, morning pages, wearing out your tarot cards, Chatgpt rabbit holes…but you still aren’t sure what’s right for you or you don’t trust the messages you’re getting.
WElcome to the unbecoming.
The Unbecoming is a private 3-month mentorship for women who know they're meant for more but don't know what that "more" is yet.
Together, we'll reconnect with who you really are, rebuild your self-trust, and create a plan for a life and career that feels deeply aligned with who you are.
You aren't bad at making decisions. You haven't lost your purpose. And you aren't incapable of knowing or having what you want.
You've just spent so long trying to do the “right” thing. To be responsible. Successful. To do what’s expected of you. Downplay your gifts. Be “good.” You've gotten so good at becoming who everyone else needed you to be that you slowly lost touch with who you are. And when you lose touch with yourself, it's almost impossible to know what you truly want.
Over the next three months, we’ll get clear on what you want, untangle what's been keeping you stuck, and rebuild your ability to trust yourself.
Instead of wondering, "What is my thing…what comes next?" you'll know what's right for you - and have the confidence to build it.
Inside The Unbecoming, we move through three core phases…
What’s inside
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PHASE I — DECONDITIONING
Before you can figure out what you want, you have to separate who you are from who you've been taught to be.
This is where we begin untangling years of expectations, roles, beliefs, and survival patterns so you can finally recognize what belongs to you — and what never did.
Together we'll explore:
The "Good Girl" blueprint: pleasing, performing, perfecting, suppressing
Family roles and inherited expectations
Childhood passions, curiosities, sensitivities, and dreams
The recurring clues, patterns, and desires that have been pointing you back to yourself all along
Your core values, innate gifts, strengths, and natural wiring
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PHASE II — RECLAIMING INNER AUTHORITY
Once you can see the conditioning, the next step is learning to trust yourself again.
Not your fear, not other people's expectations, not the version of you built around keeping everyone else comfortable...
Your own voice.
We work with:
The Body Compass Method (somatic intuition work)
Inner child healing
Healing the inner critic
Mapping your conditioned and authentic parts
Fear versus intuition
Rewiring subconscious beliefs about what’s possible for you
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PHASE III — DEFINE YOUR NEXT CHAPTER
Once you've reconnected with yourself, your next chapter stops being something you have to force or figure out. Instead, it becomes something you create from a place of self-trust.
Together, we:
Define your vision for your next chapter
Create sustainable action rooted in self-trust
Move through fear, perfectionism, and self-doubt
Practice courageous authenticity and visibility
Build confidence in recognizing what's truly aligned for you
This might look like:
Changing careers
Launching something meaningful
Reclaiming creativity
Becoming more visible
Recovering a childhood dream
Work that’s a better fit
What’s included
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Weekly 1:1 Sessions
Weekly, personalized coaching that meets you exactly where you are—combining deep exploration with practical guidance so you leave each session with greater clarity, self-trust, and momentum
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Text/Voice Note support
Stay supported between calls with ongoing access for questions, wins, challenges, and guidance so you never feel like you're navigating this journey alone.
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Custom Integration Work
Personalized practices, journal prompts, and integration exercises designed to deepen your breakthroughs and help you create lasting change between sessions
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Pillar-by-pillar deep dive work
Move through a clear, transformational framework that guides you from conditioned survival to authentic self-expression and purpose.
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Custom roadmap built around your story
Your path is unlike anyone else's. Together we'll follow the threads of your unique life, gifts, and challenges to create your next chapter
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Somatic + mindset + emotional healing tools
Blend body-based practices, nervous system work, belief transformation, and emotional processing so change becomes embodied—not just understood
you’ll leave with:
⟡ A clear understanding of what your calling is and why it feels so meaningful to you
⟡ A vision for your next chapter that genuinely excites you
⟡ A practical plan for bringing that vision to life
⟡ The ability to tell the difference between fear and intuition
⟡ The ability to make decisions without constantly seeking permission or second-guessing yourself
⟡ Trust in your own intuition, even when the path ahead feels uncertain
⟡ A deeper trust in yourself than you've ever had before
⟡ Tools you'll continue using long after our work together ends
about me
Hi!In 2019, I quit practicing law because I could no longer ignore a truth I'd been avoiding for years. "Good girl" conditioning was ruining my life.
I spent years afraid to be myself. At the root of that fear was a deep, old belief that something was fundamentally wrong with me. So I tried to be "good," to do the "right" thing, to become who I thought everyone else needed me to be. Not surprisingly, I lost myself — and my path — in the process.
I became a lawyer because it felt respectable. Safe. Close enough to what I really wanted, without asking me to risk too much. Eventually, I gave up hope of ever finding my true calling and put all my happiness eggs in the relationship basket instead.
Five years into my legal career, I hit rock bottom. My "this will save me" relationship ended abruptly, and something finally cracked open inside me. At the time, it felt like the worst heartbreak of my life. Looking back, I believe that cracking is what finally let the light in.
As I began healing my relationship with myself, I realized I was asking the wrong question. "What should I do with my life?" turned into... "Who would I be without all this conditioning?"
That became my own Unbecoming. I learned to listen to my intuition. To make authentic choices, even when they disappointed people. To trust myself again. I rediscovered what actually made me happy — not what I'd been taught should make me happy.
Today, it's my privilege to guide women through that same journey. Together, we peel back the layers of conditioning that have hidden your light, made you smaller, filled you with self-doubt, and disconnected you from the life that was always waiting for you.
We are all capable of waking up, of healing, of creating a life that actually belongs to us. It takes courage. But you'll never regret putting your life back into your own hands.
client love
“Jessica was remarkable in many ways. She's the most relevant and growth-oriented coach I have experienced to date.
Our conversations left me with clarity and ambition to pursue my true calling.”
-R.P. (New York)
“It's difficult to put into words the impact that Jessica has had on my life, as it's been profound.
As I entered 2024, dejected and weary from years of painful career and personal strife, I vowed to myself that I would approach "getting back on my feet" differently.
I would not jump on the LinkedIn-searching/resume-rewriting/knee-jerk job application roller coaster I was well-versed and road-weary from riding the past years, as it hadn't produced the results that I wanted in my life.
I wanted out of survival mode and into thriving mode, and I knew I needed a guide for this—and, that's exactly what Jessica did for me.
Her work reawakened my drive, reminding me of my long-ignored talents and my signature zest for life that I'd lost along the way.
Jessica helps you excavate those places in your heart that are oftentimes covered in shame, mental blocks, societal norms, or just lack of use.
She's wise and tender and attuned to exactly where you are in your life and what you need to move forward.
I walked away from my experience with Jessica with tangible results including published writing, media opportunities, improved finances, and, most importantly, a newfound confidence for my path.
If you are looking to find your purpose and awaken your soul again, Jessica is the most perfect guide for you.
-B.G. (Nashville)
“This year, I’ve learned that mental health is the new wealth and I’ve learned so much from Jessica.
She helped me make a career change, improve my relationships, know myself, and forge a new path. Check her out!”
-R.R. (Nashville)
This is perfect for you if…
✓ You've done the self-development work and still feel disconnected from yourself.
✓ You've spent years being the "good girl"—people-pleasing, over-achieving, and shaping your life around everyone else's expectations.
✓ You know something needs to change, but every path forward feels clouded by fear, guilt, or uncertainty.
✓ You have a longing for something different, but part of you is terrified to admit what you really want.
✓ You're tired of second-guessing yourself and looking to other people for answers you wish you could trust yourself to make.
✓ You're beginning to realize that the life you've built no longer fits—and pretending otherwise is becoming impossible.
✓ You're done waiting until you feel "ready" and want to start building a life that actually feels like yours now.
What makes this different?
Maybe you've already tried to figure this out.
You've probably been to therapy, read the books, binged the podcasts, done career or executive coaching, or even changed jobs.
And yet... you're still asking yourself the same question: What do I actually want?
The reason is this: You've been trying to answer that question from the very part of you that was conditioned to lose sight of herself in the first place.
Decades of "good girl" programming, cultural expectations, family roles, and inherited beliefs taught you to build a life around being accepted instead of being yourself.
Until that conditioning begins to unravel, every attempt to figure out your next chapter gets filtered through beliefs that were never truly yours.
That's why The Unbecoming doesn't give you another framework to follow or another version of yourself to become.
We use a blend of somatic, mindset, emotional, and spiritual approaches to help you reconnect with the woman underneath the conditioning — so every decision, every next step, and every part of the life you build from here actually feels like yours.
You don't think your way back to yourself.
You don't achieve your way back to yourself.
You remember who you've always been.
Frequently Asked Questions
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That’s exactly who this work is for. Most women who come into this space feel disconnected from themselves and unsure of what they want. We uncover your purpose together through patterns, embodiment, authenticity, and aligned experimentation.
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It can be but doesn’t have to be. Your purpose may impact your career, but this work is much deeper than job strategy. This is identity work, healing work, self-trust work, and authentic life direction work.
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Therapy is healing-focused, often looking back at trauma to process and recover. This work is forward-focused — it meets you where you are, acknowledges the conditioning and pain that got you here, and actively moves you toward your authentic self and purpose. We do inner healing work, but this is purposeful transformation, not clinical treatment.
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Because most self-development work teaches you to optimize the life you have — not question whether that life was truly yours to begin with. The Unbecoming goes to the root. We're not adding better habits on top of a conditioned life. We're dismantling the conditioning itself, so everything you build from here is actually yours.
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That’s normal. Most women fear what authenticity might cost them. We move at a pace your nervous system can actually sustain while building the safety and self-trust needed for real transformation.
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That’s usually part of the problem. Most women have been trying to solve purpose entirely from the mind. This work helps you reconnect with the body, intuition, emotions, desires, and patterns that already contain the answers.
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No. I don’t believe purpose requires chaos, recklessness, or destroying your life overnight. We focus on sustainable, aligned change rooted in authenticity and nervous system safety.
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In three months, most women don't just find clarity - they find themselves. By the end of our work together, you can expect to have a real sense of what you actually want (separate from what you've been conditioned to want), a deeper trust in your own voice and intuition, and a concrete vision for your next chapter that feels genuinely yours.